What to Expect
How I Work With Neurodivergent Couples
Most couples arrive dysregulated - flooded, guarded, or just tired. Before anything else, we create enough steadiness that real work is possible. That means pacing things to your actual nervous systems, not a standard template.
Using EFT, we map the pattern underneath the conflict. For a lot of neurodivergent couples, just having the cycle named clearly is a shift. Then we build something that actually works for both of you - real tools that account for how your brains work, not generic communication tips.
The body stays in the room. Before I became a therapist, I spent 17 years as an acupuncturist working with the body every day. Somatic awareness is woven throughout - especially useful for neurodivergent clients whose bodies often know what their minds haven't caught up to yet.
Flexible Pacing Explicit check-ins, room to process in ways that don't look "typical." I don't expect you to fit a standard therapy mold.
Online Across California All sessions via Google Meet, for couples anywhere from San Diego and Los Angeles to the Bay Area and Sacramento. No commute, no waiting room. A lot of my clients do their best work from their own couch. The one exception: couples retreats, which happen in person in San Diego.
Both Partners Are Held I don't take sides. I'm trying to understand both of your experiences fully - so you can stop being adversaries and remember you're on the same team.
