San Diego & Online Across California
You love each other. And you're exhausted. The same argument keeps coming back, nobody feels heard, and you're starting to wonder if this is just how it is. It isn't. But it does need a different kind of help than most therapy offers.
ADHD & Autism-Affirming Somatic Therapy Couples Retreats Online in CA
"I've lived enough of this to know that the gap between two people isn't always about love. Sometimes it's just about wiring. And that can be worked with."- Maring Higa, AMFT
How I Help
I've spent years in this work - as a therapist, an acupuncturist, and someone who has navigated her own version of all of this. Here's where I can actually help.
When two brains work differently, love isn't always enough. We look at what's actually happening between you - the patterns, the misses, the places where you keep losing each other - and we build something that works for both of you.
Learn MoreIf you're the neurotypical partner, you might feel like you've been carrying things alone for a long time. This is a space where your experience gets to matter too - without having to justify it first.
Learn MoreI spent 17 years as an acupuncturist before I became a therapist. That time taught me that the body knows things before the mind catches up. We bring that into the room.
Learn MoreSometimes 50 minutes a week just isn't enough to get underneath things. A retreat gives you a real stretch of time to do concentrated work - without stopping when you're just getting somewhere.
Learn MoreFor neurodivergent adults figuring out who they are, how their brain works, and what they actually need - in relationships, in work, and in life. Late diagnosis welcome.
Learn MoreNot sure if any of this is right for you? Let's just talk. No forms, no commitment - just a short call to see if working together makes sense.
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About Maring
I'm a therapist, a former acupuncturist of 17 years, a mom of two, and someone who got her own ADHD diagnosis as an adult - which reframed a lot of things. I've been in relationships where the love was real and the connection was hard. I know what that costs.
I bring all of that into the room. Not as a script, but as someone who genuinely gets it - and who has done enough of her own work to sit with yours without flinching.
I'm not here to fix you or your relationship. I'm here to help you understand what's actually happening, and to walk alongside you while you figure out what comes next.
Online Therapy
All sessions are via Google Meet - no commute, no waiting room, no fluorescent lights. A lot of my clients actually do their best work from their own couch. If that's you, that's completely fine with me.
Start Online TherapyNeurodivergent-Affirming Care
ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodivergence aren't deficits to overcome. They're a different way of moving through the world. I've learned to work with that - and I have a 14-year-old autistic son who reminds me of it every day.
When two people process things differently - emotions, sensory input, time, communication - friction isn't a sign that something is wrong with either of you. It's just what happens when different wiring meets without the right tools.
Getting diagnosed as an adult - with ADHD, autism, anything - means looking back at your whole history through a different lens. That's a lot to carry. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult myself. I know what that reframe feels like.
A lot of neurodivergent clients are disconnected from their bodies - overloaded, shut down, or just never taught to listen. Somatic work is a real part of how I help people regulate, not a nice-to-have.
Ready to Begin?
The first call is free and there's no pressure. We'll talk for 15 minutes, you can ask me anything, and we'll figure out together whether it makes sense to move forward.
Book My Free ConsultationOr call / text Maring: 619-387-8725
