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Neurodivergent Couples Therapy
When You Love Each Other but Keep Missing Each Other

You love each other. And you're exhausted. The same argument keeps coming back, and nobody feels heard. It doesn't have to stay this way, with help that accounts for how each of your brains actually works.

ADHD & Autism-Affirming · Somatic & Relational · Couples, Individuals & Retreats

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About Maring

I've Lived a Lot of This Myself

I'm a therapist, a mom of two, and someone who got her own ADHD diagnosis as an adult, which reframed a lot of things. I've been in relationships where the love was real and the connection was hard. I know what that costs.

Before this, I spent 17 years as an acupuncturist, working with the body every day. I bring all of it into our work. I'm not here to fix you. I'm here to help you understand what's actually happening, and to walk alongside you while you figure out what comes next.

Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #145908, supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452
Bioenergetic Somatic Training (2021-2025)
Neurodivergent-affirming, ADHD & autism-informed

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How I Help

Three Ways We Can Work Together

Therapy is online anywhere in California. Retreats are in person in San Diego.

Neurodivergent Couples Therapy

When two brains work differently, love isn't always enough. We look at the patterns, the misses, the places you keep losing each other, and build something that works for both of you.

Couples Therapy

Individual Neurodivergent Therapy

For neurodivergent adults figuring out how their brain works and what they actually need, in relationships, work, and life. Late diagnosis welcome. Not sure if you're neurodivergent? That's welcome too.

Individual Therapy

Couples Retreat Intensives

Two or three days of concentrated work in person in San Diego, so you don't have to stop just as you're getting somewhere.

Couples Retreats

Woven Into All of It

Somatic Psychotherapy

Some things are easier to notice through sensation than words. When overwhelm, shutdown, or trouble naming feelings get in the way, the body offers another doorway in.

How I Use the Body

When You Feel Alone in Your Relationship

If you've been carrying things alone for a long time, feeling unseen or like the only one who notices what's wrong, your experience gets to matter here too.

Partner Support

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Not sure which fits? Tell me a little about what you're looking for (about two minutes) and I'll reach out within 24 hours to set up a free 15-minute call.

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Who This Is For

People Usually Come to Me Wanting To

Not because something is broken - because something keeps repeating, and they're ready to understand what's underneath it.

Stop having the same fight over and over
Understand why one partner shuts down while the other pushes for more
Communicate without immediately getting defensive
Make sense of a new ADHD or autism diagnosis - their own or their partner's
Work through years of built-up resentment
Feel like partners again instead of adversaries

Neurodivergent-Affirming Care

You Shouldn't Have to Explain Your Brain Before We Can Begin

People Who Find Their Way Here Are Often

Somewhere in the middle of a diagnosis, or wondering about one. Stuck in the same disconnection no matter how hard they try. Tired of masking. Sometimes all three at once.

Intensive Experience

Couples Retreats: When 50 Minutes a Week Isn't Enough

Some things don't fit into weekly sessions: old patterns that need more room, conversations that keep getting cut off before they go anywhere real.

Unhurried, Concentrated Time

Two or three days. No clock-watching, no starting over next week.

Designed Around You

Built around your history, your patterns, and what you need to shift.

More Than Talking

Somatic and experiential work alongside conversation. Things land differently when the body is part of it.

Couples Retreat Intensive

Format	2-day or 3-day intensive
Location	San Diego, CA (in person)
Availability	Limited - by inquiry
Ideal For	Neurodivergent couples ready to reconnect

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Common Questions

Things People Usually Ask Before Reaching Out

Do you offer in-person sessions?

All therapy sessions are online via Google Meet, for clients anywhere in California. The one exception is couples retreats, which happen in person in San Diego.

Do you take insurance?

I'm a private-pay practice. I can provide superbills you can submit to your insurance for possible out-of-network reimbursement, and reduced fees are considered case by case. Full details are on my Fees page.

What's the difference between weekly couples therapy and a couples retreat?

Weekly sessions are 50 minutes online and build steadily over time. A retreat is two or three days of concentrated work in person in San Diego, for couples who want more room than weekly sessions allow. Some couples do both - a retreat to get underneath things, then weekly sessions to keep going.

I'm not sure whether I'm neurodivergent. Can I still work with you?

Yes. Many people come to me somewhere in the middle of figuring that out - wondering, recently diagnosed, or partnered with someone who is. You don't need a diagnosis to start, and you don't need to explain your brain before we can begin.

How is neurodivergent couples therapy different from regular couples therapy?

Regular couples therapy often assumes both partners' brains work the same way. Here, we first look at how each of you takes in information, handles sensory input, and communicates. Then we build ways of relating that fit both of you. Neither of you is treated as the problem partner.

How much do sessions cost?

Individual sessions are $200 and couples sessions are $250, each 50 minutes online. The first step is a free 15-minute consult. Retreat pricing is on the retreats page.

Does online therapy work for couples?

Yes. We meet by secure video, and many neurodivergent clients find it easier to settle at home than in an unfamiliar office. You'll get a Google Meet link before each session, wherever you are in California.

Ready to Begin?

Let's See If We're a Good Fit

The first call is free and there's no pressure. We'll talk for 15 minutes, you can ask me anything, and we'll figure out together whether it makes sense to move forward.

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Or call / text Maring: 619-387-8725

Neurodivergent Couples TherapyWhen You Love Each Other but Keep Missing Each Other

I've Lived a Lot of This Myself

Three Ways We Can Work Together

Neurodivergent Couples Therapy

Individual Neurodivergent Therapy

Couples Retreat Intensives

Woven Into All of It

Somatic Psychotherapy

When You Feel Alone in Your Relationship

Start Here

People Usually Come to Me Wanting To

You Shouldn't Have to Explain Your Brain Before We Can Begin

People Who Find Their Way Here Are Often

Couples Retreats: When 50 Minutes a Week Isn't Enough

Unhurried, Concentrated Time

Designed Around You

More Than Talking

Couples Retreat Intensive

Things People Usually Ask Before Reaching Out

Let's See If We're a Good Fit

Neurodivergent Couples Therapy
When You Love Each Other but Keep Missing Each Other